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The Ultimate Guide to 21st-Century Dating

The Ultimate Guide to 21st-Century Dating
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Over the last few years we've witnessed a dating revolution. There are now so many ways to meet new people - whether through the innumerable internet dating sites, singles nights, speed dating events, or more traditional matchmaking agencies. And it isn't just about finding a soulmate or partner; many people are looking for new friends, casual flings or just a good time. But how do you choose what type of dating is right for you? And how do you get the most from your dates? In "The Ultimate Guide to 21st-Century Dating", Carol Dix takes us through all the current dating trends around the world and gives advice and insight on how to tackle each method. Considering all the differences in age, gender and personality type, Carol Dix helps the reader discover which dating style is the best for them. Find out what to look for in a date, how to put your best side forwards, and how to proceed after the initial meetings. Filled with case studies of fantastic and terrible dates from a wide range of people, this book is the ultimate guide to help you master the art of dating.
Vision Paperbacks; February 2009
272 pages; ISBN 9781848396418
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Excerpt
You’re going to an interview for a new job. You’re nervous, slightly sweaty, but you’ve prepared yourself, read up about the company, honed your CV, made sure you’re dressed reasonably to give a smart and hopefully good impression. You’ve prepared some questions to ask them. You walk in the room and know that all eyes are glaring not at you, but through to the other side. They’re assessing their first impression of you. Are you slightly overweight, obviously tense and nervous? Are you young or old for your given age? Do you answer their questions clearly and with a voice that expresses optimism and enthusiasm? Or is your head down into your chest, shoulders hunched, legs twisted uncomfortably? The only things they’re not doing are: • assessing whether they would like to go to bed with you; • wondering whether they might fall in love with you; • trying to figure whether you could be the one person they might like to marry, have children or spend the next 30 years with. So how crazy is dating? Yes, this is exactly what we do to each other. We put ourselves through the agony of a job interview, or audition as an actor, and topload it with some of the most seriously difficult demands on another person we could ever possibly impose. And if that person does not meet all those criteria, we say goodbye, never to see them again. I say this by way of my introduction to this book, The Ultimate Guide to 21st-Century Dating, because, after extensive research and interviews with a range of interesting and wonderful men and women, I’ve come away very impressed that anyone ever actually meets ‘the one’. But the really good news is that they do. And it usually is by chance. However, the main point to consider for anyone who magically and mysteriously finds themselves, out of the blue, with their man or woman of choice, is that they did not meet this person by shutting themselves away in a locked room and spending all their days, evenings or weekends on their own. They met this person either by actively looking, searching, exploring life, or using the various dating methods that exist today in the 21st century. Dating today is very different from how it was at any other time in the past. Why? The most obvious change has been brought about by the rapid growth in internet usage and subsequent rise in new online dating sites. Whoever would have thought, even ten years ago, we’d soon be choosing our potential mates as we might sort out an online grocery shopping list? We search for houses, holidays, clothes, books, music, mortgages, loans, courses, cars and almost everything online. Now, looking for interesting people has become as normal and taken for granted as any other form of service we might be seeking. Dating has become mainstream in western society because we need help in meeting people. We all know that old-fashioned ways of match-making or getting together have more or less vanished. Most of us work far too many hours and office romances tend to be frowned upon. There’s a terrible isolation to modern life, especially in cities where we rush along busy streets, not looking others in the eye, and scuttle into our houses or flats like rabbits going into the hutch. Once school, university or college days are over, the easy free-for-all of getting to know a large group of people in a non-threatening way more or less vanishes. Yet the isolation doesn’t mean we want to live on our own or go about our daily lives in a solitary fashion. The human need for companionship, friendship, love, romance and sexual harmony have certainly not diminished at all. This book is not only about dating pursued via the internet. Look at all the varied forms and exciting new ways that dating entrepreneurs are inventing to help us break the isolation and bring us together. Old-style introduction agencies still exist and continue to thrive. Speed dating is another form of face-to-face get-together, which, by packing as many people into a room as possible, probably mirrors the old village dance/marriage market our ancestors used to enjoy.