Polyamory in the 21st Century

Love and Intimacy with Multiple Partners

by Deborah Anapol

Unlike other books on this topic, Polyamory in the 21st Century weaves together research and facts to provide an informed and impartial analysis of polyamory as a lifestyle and as a movement, and to place it in a psychosocial as well as an historical context. Anecdotes and personal experiences allow the reader to develop a better understanding of polyamory and the people who practice and enjoy it. Anapol addresses the practical, the utopian, and the shadow sides of this intriguing, mysterious, yet often threatening lifestyle. It honestly addresses difficult issues such as the nature of commitment without exclusivity, balancing personal needs with loyalty to a partner, evaluating beliefs about love and relationship, the impact of polyamory on children, and the challenges that arise when one partner wants monogamy and another prefers polyamory. Without judgement, she explores this increasingly common practice, and reveals the true nature of a lifestyle that many do not understand.

  • Rowman & Littlefield Publishers; August 2010
  • ISBN: 9781442200234
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  • Title: Polyamory in the 21st Century
  • Author: Deborah Anapol
  • Imprint: Rowman & Littlefield Publishers

In The Press

Deborah Anapol has produced a level-headed, insightful examination of the growing polyamory movement and the people in it — their ideals, motivations, backgrounds, and practices, and the increasing body of hard-won wisdom they are accumulating about what makes multiple-relationship structures fail or succeed. Anapol draws on her nearly 30 years at the heart of the movement, including her experience counseling thousands of poly and would-be-poly clients and her many discussions with the movement's movers and shakers. She also examines how poly people and families deal with such issues as jealousy, time management, child rearing, and how closeted or out to be in a sometimes hostile world


About The Author

Deborah Anapol is the author of Polyamory: The New Love without Limits and The Seven Natural Laws of Love. She has taught psychology and human sexuality at the University of Washington in Seattle and Antioch University in San Francisco. She leads seminars on love, sex, and intimacy around the country and the world.